Sex and Porn Addiction Are Not Related to Sexual Orientation

Being gay, lesbian, or bisexual does not make you a sex or porn addict any more than being straight makes you a sex or porn addict.

Sometimes people seek sex and porn addiction treatment in the hope that it will change their sexual orientation. Occasionally, they do this at the behest of a misguided family member, spiritual advisor, or clinician. However, removing elements from one’s arousal template is not possible. If you’re attracted to men, that’s the way it is; if you’re attracted to women, same story; and if you like both genders, you’d better get used to it, because that’s not going change no matter how much analysis you have or how many 12-step meetings you attend. Put very simply, sex and porn addiction are not in any way defined by who or what it is that turns you on. Neither homosexual nor bisexual arousal patterns are factors in the diagnosis of sex and porn addiction, even if those arousal patterns are ego-dystonic (unwanted).

Task for Today
Work on accepting (and maybe even celebrating) your own or another person’s sexual orientation.