Tag Archives: addiction

  • Misguided Thinking
    Saturday, August 31st, 2019

    Misguided Thinking

    Addiction is the cause of, not the solution to, our unhappiness. As active sex and porn addicts, we rarely view our escapist sexual fantasies and behaviors as the cause...
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  • Shame Resilience
    Tuesday, August 27th, 2019

    Shame Resilience

    We are only as sick as our secrets. In her book Daring Greatly, Brené Brown writes, “Shame resilience is about moving from shame to empathy – the real antidote...
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  • Why We Use Sex and Porn Addictively
    Saturday, August 17th, 2019

    Why We Use Sex and Porn Addictively

    Addiction helps us imagine that we have some kind of mastery over life’s difficulties. Sex and porn addicts share certain characteristics. One of these common traits is that we...
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  • The Neurobiology of Addiction
    Wednesday, August 7th, 2019

    The Neurobiology of Addiction

    The only significant difference between substance addiction and sex/porn addiction is that substance addicts ingest alcohol or drugs to create an emotionally escapist neurochemical reaction, whereas sex/porn addicts rely...
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  • The Etiology (Formation) of Addiction
    Sunday, July 28th, 2019

    The Etiology (Formation) of Addiction

    We are not addicted to a substance or behavior; we’re addicted to escaping reality. When our early-life caregivers are absent, impaired, addicted, neglectful, anxious, inconsistent, intrusive, overbearing, or similarly...
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  • Playing the Victim
    Wednesday, July 24th, 2019

    Playing the Victim

    If you continually view yourself as a victim, you continually ignore the blessings of the day. Many sex and porn addicts, even though our sexual behaviors are clearly harming...
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  • Why We Lash Out
    Sunday, July 21st, 2019

    Why We Lash Out

    It is clear that we make our own misery. In our addiction and as recovering people, we sometimes hurt the people we love by trying to ‘help them’ when...
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