Sex and porn addiction are not about feeling good, they’re about feeling less. Sex and porn addicts use sexual fantasy and behavior to ‘numb out’ and escape from stress...
With sex and porn addiction, shame is the master emotion. A considerable amount of research makes it clear that not talking about feelings of shame is usually more damaging...
Dr. David Fawcett Addictive processes involve several regions of the brain, but most are focused on a set of structures deep in the midbrain called the reward circuitry (also...
It is impossible to understand addiction without asking what relief the addict finds, or hopes to find, in the drug or the addictive behavior. As addicts, we use addictive...
Shame loses its power when shared with another loving person. As sex and porn addicts, we can almost universally identify when other addicts talk about the ‘shitty committee’ that...
When everything seems to be going against you, remember that airplanes take off against the wind, not with it. Even though we nearly always require outside assistance if we...
David Fawcett PhD Every addict I’ve ever worked with, without fail, wants to know why he or she is addicted. Often, these individuals, early on, are more focused on...
If we can learn to identify our triggers and stop them in their tracks—before they induce craving—then we have a much better chance to stay sober. Unfortunately, triggers are...
The anticipation of pleasure drives sex and porn addiction. Pleasure is the ‘carrot on a stick’ that keeps us trudging forward. Sometimes it seems like absolutely anything, be it...