Tag Archives: addiction

  • Addicts and the Blame Game
    Monday, January 13th, 2020

    Addicts and the Blame Game

    By Scott Brassart I didn’t come into substance and sex addiction recovery so I could heal or change my behaviors. I came into recovery because I thought that someone...
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  • Just Another Way to Numb Out
    Saturday, January 4th, 2020

    Just Another Way to Numb Out

    Sex and porn addiction are not about feeling good, they’re about feeling less. Sex and porn addicts use sexual fantasy and behavior to ‘numb out’ and escape from stress...
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  • Combatting Shame
    Friday, December 27th, 2019

    Combatting Shame

    With sex and porn addiction, shame is the master emotion. A considerable amount of research makes it clear that not talking about feelings of shame is usually more damaging...
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  • Stop Listening to the Noise in Your Head
    Monday, December 9th, 2019

    Stop Listening to the Noise in Your Head

    Shame loses its power when shared with another loving person. As sex and porn addicts, we can almost universally identify when other addicts talk about the ‘shitty committee’ that...
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  • Our Motivation for Recovery
    Friday, December 6th, 2019

    Our Motivation for Recovery

    When everything seems to be going against you, remember that airplanes take off against the wind, not with it. Even though we nearly always require outside assistance if we...
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  • Is It a Compulsion or an Addiction?
    Monday, November 18th, 2019

    Is It a Compulsion or an Addiction?

    The anticipation of pleasure drives sex and porn addiction. Pleasure is the ‘carrot on a stick’ that keeps us trudging forward. Sometimes it seems like absolutely anything, be it...
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  • The Stuckness of Addiction
    Monday, November 11th, 2019

    The Stuckness of Addiction

    Before you can break out of prison, you must realize you are locked up. Addictions are not about pleasure. Instead, they’re about the secondary gain of escape. Non-addicts drink,...
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  • Lonely in a Room Full of Loved Ones
    Wednesday, October 30th, 2019

    Lonely in a Room Full of Loved Ones

    Addiction is the only prison where the locks are on the inside. Despite the American ethos that constantly tells us we must make it on our own, being alone...
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