Tag Archives: addiction

  • The Stuckness of Addiction
    Monday, November 11th, 2019

    The Stuckness of Addiction

    Before you can break out of prison, you must realize you are locked up. Addictions are not about pleasure. Instead, they’re about the secondary gain of escape. Non-addicts drink,...
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  • Lonely in a Room Full of Loved Ones
    Wednesday, October 30th, 2019

    Lonely in a Room Full of Loved Ones

    Addiction is the only prison where the locks are on the inside. Despite the American ethos that constantly tells us we must make it on our own, being alone...
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  • Liar, Liar
    Monday, September 30th, 2019

    Liar, Liar

    I could conceive death, but I could not conceive betrayal. For many active sex and porn addicts, the immediate and best solution to a loss of relationship trust is...
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  • Sex and Porn Addiction Are Not Fun
    Wednesday, September 25th, 2019

    Sex and Porn Addiction Are Not Fun

    If you need an analogy for addiction, imagine living without air. Then imagine something worse. When we say the words sex addiction to non-addicted people, the kneejerk response is...
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  • Misguided Thinking
    Saturday, August 31st, 2019

    Misguided Thinking

    Addiction is the cause of, not the solution to, our unhappiness. As active sex and porn addicts, we rarely view our escapist sexual fantasies and behaviors as the cause...
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  • Shame Resilience
    Tuesday, August 27th, 2019

    Shame Resilience

    We are only as sick as our secrets. In her book Daring Greatly, Brené Brown writes, “Shame resilience is about moving from shame to empathy – the real antidote...
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  • Why We Use Sex and Porn Addictively
    Saturday, August 17th, 2019

    Why We Use Sex and Porn Addictively

    Addiction helps us imagine that we have some kind of mastery over life’s difficulties. Sex and porn addicts share certain characteristics. One of these common traits is that we...
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