Monday, January 13th, 2020
Addicts and the Blame Game
By Scott Brassart I didn’t come into substance and sex addiction recovery so I could heal or change my behaviors. I came into recovery because I thought that someone...
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Tag Archives: addiction
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Saturday, January 4th, 2020Just Another Way to Numb Out
Sex and porn addiction are not about feeling good, they’re about feeling less. Sex and porn addicts use sexual fantasy and behavior to ‘numb out’ and escape from stress...Read More -
Friday, December 27th, 2019Combatting Shame
With sex and porn addiction, shame is the master emotion. A considerable amount of research makes it clear that not talking about feelings of shame is usually more damaging...Read More -
Monday, December 16th, 2019The Trauma That Typically Underlies Addiction
It is impossible to understand addiction without asking what relief the addict finds, or hopes to find, in the drug or the addictive behavior. As addicts, we use addictive...Read More -
Monday, December 9th, 2019
Stop Listening to the Noise in Your Head
Shame loses its power when shared with another loving person. As sex and porn addicts, we can almost universally identify when other addicts talk about the ‘shitty committee’ that...Read More -
Friday, December 6th, 2019Our Motivation for Recovery
When everything seems to be going against you, remember that airplanes take off against the wind, not with it. Even though we nearly always require outside assistance if we...Read More -
Monday, November 18th, 2019Is It a Compulsion or an Addiction?
The anticipation of pleasure drives sex and porn addiction. Pleasure is the ‘carrot on a stick’ that keeps us trudging forward. Sometimes it seems like absolutely anything, be it...Read More -
Monday, November 11th, 2019The Stuckness of Addiction
Before you can break out of prison, you must realize you are locked up. Addictions are not about pleasure. Instead, they’re about the secondary gain of escape. Non-addicts drink,...Read More -
Wednesday, October 30th, 2019Lonely in a Room Full of Loved Ones
Addiction is the only prison where the locks are on the inside. Despite the American ethos that constantly tells us we must make it on our own, being alone...Read More