Tag Archives: Amends

  • Step Ten: Wash, Rinse, Repeat
    Friday, October 11th, 2019

    Step Ten: Wash, Rinse, Repeat

    Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Step 10 is the logical culmination of the previous nine steps. The first nine steps are about stopping the bleeding of...
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  • Step Nine: Scary but Necessary
    Tuesday, September 17th, 2019

    Step Nine: Scary but Necessary

    It is the highest form of self-respect to admit our errors and make amends for them. Step 9 says that as part of our recovery we should make direct...
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  • Step Nine: Proceed with Caution
    Tuesday, September 3rd, 2019

    Step Nine: Proceed with Caution

    A word, once uttered, cannot be whistled back in. Step 9 says that as part of our recovery we should make direct amends to people we have harmed whenever...
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  • Step Eight: It’s for You, Not Them
    Thursday, August 22nd, 2019

    Step Eight: It’s for You, Not Them

    The first step in forgiveness is the willingness to forgive. For many recovering sex and porn addicts the second half of Step 8 – becoming willing to make amends...
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  • Step Eight: Examining Your Feelings
    Thursday, August 15th, 2019

    Step Eight: Examining Your Feelings

    Genuine kindness does not have ulterior motives. After we’ve created our Step 8 amends list, writing down who we’ve harmed and how, we must examine our current feelings about...
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  • Forgiving Ourselves
    Monday, November 19th, 2018

    Forgiving Ourselves

    As we make amends we continually confront the issue of forgiveness—of others and ourselves.  As we work the steps of our recovery, the topic of forgiveness will inevitably come...
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  • Step Ten: The Spot-Check Version
    Wednesday, October 17th, 2018

    Step Ten: The Spot-Check Version

    Life begins at the end of your comfort zone. Step Ten is usually done at the end of each day and on an as-needed basis. The as-needed, spot-check version...
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