At the end of the day, only I am responsible for my success or failure.
One long-sober sex addict often jokes, “I didn’t come into sexual recovery to heal or change my behaviors. I just wanted to know who I should blame.” In truth, blaming others is a significant part of most sex and porn addicts’ denial. Instead of accepting that we may have a serious issue, we ignore complaints and attempted interventions and accuse others of nagging, being prudish, trying to stifle us, failing to understand us, and asking too much of us. We do this not because we truly don’t care about other people’s thoughts and feelings, but because we ‘need’ to protect our addiction.
Task for Today
Stop blaming others for your addiction and start taking responsibility.