Guilt is the feeling that we’ve done something bad that goes against our values and beliefs. Shame is the inherent belief that we are inherently defective or bad. Guilt implies: I did something that I regret, and I feel badly about that. Shame implies: I am a horrible person and there is nothing I can do about that. For recovering sex and porn addicts, guilt is a useful emotion to feel – a powerful motivator for being a better person today than yesterday – while shame just a cesspool that keeps us mired in our active addiction.
Task for Today
Try to differentiate between feelings of guilt and feelings of shame.