Thursday, January 17th, 2019
Combatting Shame
With sexual addiction, shame is the master emotion. A considerable amount of research makes it clear that not talking about shame or a shaming event is usually more damaging...
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Thursday, January 10th, 2019Stop Listening to the Noise in Your Head
Shame loses its power when shared with another loving person. As sex and porn addicts, we can almost universally identify when other addicts talk about the “shitty committee” that...Read More
Thursday, January 3rd, 2019Guilt vs. Shame
Shame is the inherent belief that we are flawed and unworthy. Shame is a lie. Guilt is the feeling that you’ve done something bad that goes against your values...Read More- Friday, November 30th, 2018
Shame: The Wisdom of Sirius Black
Shame thrives in darkness, but withers in sunlight. In Harry Potter: The Order of the Phoenix, Harry fears the darkness within himself. When he shares this with his godfather,...Read More - Friday, November 23rd, 2018
The Price of Shame
Left unchecked, shame will eat your soul. Research shows that shame—the inherent belief that one is defective and unworthy of love—neither encourages nor motivates positive change. Instead, it corrodes...Read More - Sunday, November 18th, 2018
Gender, Sexual Addiction, and Shame
Sexual objectification cannot be performed with any attention to its ethical meaning. Sexually addicted women rarely walk into a therapist’s office and self-identify as having an issue with sex....Read More - Friday, November 16th, 2018
Stop Listening to the Noise in Your Head
Shame loses its power when shared with another loving person. Sex addicts can almost universally identify when other addicts talk about the “shitty committee” that holds uninvited discussions in...Read More 
Friday, November 9th, 2018Shame Resilience
Sex addicts are only as sick as their secrets. In her book Daring Greatly, Brené Brown writes, “Shame resilience is about moving from shame to empathy—the real antidote to...Read More
Friday, November 2nd, 2018Combatting Shame
When we share our story, shame cannot survive. Overcoming the deeply rooted shame that drives sexual addiction is a process of learning to recognize shame and its triggers, learning...Read More