Tag Archives: shame

  • Combatting Shame
    Monday, December 27th, 2021

    Combatting Shame

    With sex and porn addiction, shame is the master emotion. A considerable amount of research makes it clear that not talking about feelings of shame is usually more damaging...
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  • Stop Listening to the Noise in Your Head
    Thursday, December 9th, 2021

    Stop Listening to the Noise in Your Head

    Shame loses its power when shared with another loving person. As sex and porn addicts, we can almost universally identify when other addicts talk about the ‘shitty committee’ that...
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  • Shame: The Wisdom of Sirius Black
    Saturday, November 27th, 2021

    Shame: The Wisdom of Sirius Black

    Shame thrives in darkness, but withers in sunlight. In Harry Potter: The Order of the Phoenix, Harry fears the darkness with himself. When he shares this with his godfather,...
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  • Combatting Shame
    Wednesday, October 27th, 2021

    Combatting Shame

    Shame is an antisocial emotion. Talking about shame is the social solution. As active sex and porn addicts, we spent our days trying very hard to not feel our...
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  • Guilt, Shame, and Negative Self-Image
    Friday, October 1st, 2021

    Guilt, Shame, and Negative Self-Image

    Scott Brassart As occurs with all addictions, sex and porn addicts experience a great deal of both guilt and shame about their behavior. Unfortunately, a lot of people think...
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  • Overcoming the Shame of Porn Addiction
    Monday, September 27th, 2021

    Overcoming the Shame of Porn Addiction

    A moment of self-compassion can change your entire day. A string of such moments can change the course of your life. Porn addicts are often reluctant to seek help....
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  • Shame Resilience
    Friday, August 27th, 2021

    Shame Resilience

    We are only as sick as our secrets. In her book Daring Greatly, Brené Brown writes, “Shame resilience is about moving from shame to empathy—the real antidote to shame....
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  • Shame as an Underlying Issue
    Sunday, June 27th, 2021

    Shame as an Underlying Issue

    Shame is like quicksand. It sucks us in and tries to kill us. Nearly all sex and porn addicts are shame-based to one degree or another. As such, we...
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  • The Price of Shame
    Thursday, May 27th, 2021

    The Price of Shame

    Left unchecked, shame will eat your soul. Research shows that shame—the inherent belief that one is defective and unworthy of love—neither encourages nor motivates positive change. Instead, it corrodes...
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