Tag Archives: shame

  • LGBTQ Shame and Sexual Addiction
    Monday, March 18th, 2019

    LGBTQ Shame and Sexual Addiction

    With addiction, shame is the master emotion. Many gay and lesbian sex addicts present in treatment with ego-dystonic (self-loathing) feelings related to their sexual orientation. Sometimes they openly wish...
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  • Overcoming the Shame of Porn Addiction
    Wednesday, March 13th, 2019

    Overcoming the Shame of Porn Addiction

    For porn addicts, shame is the master emotion. Porn addicts are often reluctant to seek help. Sometimes this is because they don’t view their solo sexual behaviors as an...
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  • Intimate Relating, with Kristin Minto Snowden
    Monday, February 18th, 2019

    Intimate Relating, with Kristin Minto Snowden

    In this episode of Sex, Love, & Addiction 101 Dr. Rob welcomes Kristin Minto Snowden, a specialist in helping individuals, couples, and families recover and heal from addiction, depression,...
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  • Combatting Shame
    Thursday, January 24th, 2019

    Combatting Shame

    When we share our story, shame cannot survive. Overcoming the deeply rooted shame that drives sexual addiction is a process of learning to recognize shame and its triggers, learning...
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  • Combatting Shame
    Thursday, January 17th, 2019

    Combatting Shame

    With sexual addiction, shame is the master emotion. A considerable amount of research makes it clear that not talking about shame or a shaming event is usually more damaging...
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  • Stop Listening to the Noise in Your Head
    Thursday, January 10th, 2019

    Stop Listening to the Noise in Your Head

    Shame loses its power when shared with another loving person. As sex and porn addicts, we can almost universally identify when other addicts talk about the “shitty committee” that...
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  • Guilt vs. Shame
    Thursday, January 3rd, 2019

    Guilt vs. Shame

    Shame is the inherent belief that we are flawed and unworthy. Shame is a lie. Guilt is the feeling that you’ve done something bad that goes against your values...
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  • Shame: The Wisdom of Sirius Black
    Friday, November 30th, 2018

    Shame: The Wisdom of Sirius Black

    Shame thrives in darkness, but withers in sunlight. In Harry Potter: The Order of the Phoenix, Harry fears the darkness within himself. When he shares this with his godfather,...
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  • The Price of Shame
    Friday, November 23rd, 2018

    The Price of Shame

    Left unchecked, shame will eat your soul. Research shows that shame—the inherent belief that one is defective and unworthy of love—neither encourages nor motivates positive change. Instead, it corrodes...
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