Tag Archives: shame

  • Combatting Shame
    Thursday, January 17th, 2019

    Combatting Shame

    With sexual addiction, shame is the master emotion. A considerable amount of research makes it clear that not talking about shame or a shaming event is usually more damaging...
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  • Stop Listening to the Noise in Your Head
    Thursday, January 10th, 2019

    Stop Listening to the Noise in Your Head

    Shame loses its power when shared with another loving person. As sex and porn addicts, we can almost universally identify when other addicts talk about the “shitty committee” that...
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  • Guilt vs. Shame
    Thursday, January 3rd, 2019

    Guilt vs. Shame

    Shame is the inherent belief that we are flawed and unworthy. Shame is a lie. Guilt is the feeling that you’ve done something bad that goes against your values...
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  • Shame: The Wisdom of Sirius Black
    Friday, November 30th, 2018

    Shame: The Wisdom of Sirius Black

    Shame thrives in darkness, but withers in sunlight. In Harry Potter: The Order of the Phoenix, Harry fears the darkness within himself. When he shares this with his godfather,...
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  • The Price of Shame
    Friday, November 23rd, 2018

    The Price of Shame

    Left unchecked, shame will eat your soul. Research shows that shame—the inherent belief that one is defective and unworthy of love—neither encourages nor motivates positive change. Instead, it corrodes...
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  • Gender, Sexual Addiction, and Shame
    Sunday, November 18th, 2018

    Gender, Sexual Addiction, and Shame

    Sexual objectification cannot be performed with any attention to its ethical meaning.  Sexually addicted women rarely walk into a therapist’s office and self-identify as having an issue with sex....
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  • Stop Listening to the Noise in Your Head
    Friday, November 16th, 2018

    Stop Listening to the Noise in Your Head

    Shame loses its power when shared with another loving person. Sex addicts can almost universally identify when other addicts talk about the “shitty committee” that holds uninvited discussions in...
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  • Shame Resilience
    Friday, November 9th, 2018

    Shame Resilience

    Sex addicts are only as sick as their secrets. In her book Daring Greatly, Brené Brown writes, “Shame resilience is about moving from shame to empathy—the real antidote to...
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  • Combatting Shame
    Friday, November 2nd, 2018

    Combatting Shame

    When we share our story, shame cannot survive. Overcoming the deeply rooted shame that drives sexual addiction is a process of learning to recognize shame and its triggers, learning...
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