Tag Archives: shame

  • Stop Listening to the Noise in Your Head
    Monday, December 9th, 2024

    Stop Listening to the Noise in Your Head

    Shame loses its power when shared with another loving person. As sex and porn addicts, we can almost universally identify when other addicts talk about the ‘shitty committee’ that...
  • Shame: The Wisdom of Sirius Black
    Wednesday, November 27th, 2024

    Shame: The Wisdom of Sirius Black

    Shame thrives in darkness, but withers in sunlight. In Harry Potter: The Order of the Phoenix, Harry fears the darkness with himself. When he shares this with his godfather,...
  • Combatting Shame
    Sunday, October 27th, 2024

    Combatting Shame

    Shame is an antisocial emotion. Talking about shame is the social solution. As active sex and porn addicts, we spent our days trying very hard to not feel our...
  • Overcoming the Shame of Porn Addiction
    Friday, September 27th, 2024

    Overcoming the Shame of Porn Addiction

    A moment of self-compassion can change your entire day. A string of such moments can change the course of your life. Porn addicts are often reluctant to seek help....
  • Shame Resilience
    Tuesday, August 27th, 2024

    Shame Resilience

    We are only as sick as our secrets. In her book Daring Greatly, Brené Brown writes, “Shame resilience is about moving from shame to empathy—the real antidote to shame....
  • Shame as an Underlying Issue
    Thursday, June 27th, 2024

    Shame as an Underlying Issue

    Shame is like quicksand. It sucks us in and tries to kill us. Nearly all sex and porn addicts are shame-based to one degree or another. As such, we...
  • The Price of Shame
    Monday, May 27th, 2024

    The Price of Shame

    Left unchecked, shame will eat your soul. Research shows that shame—the inherent belief that one is defective and unworthy of love—neither encourages nor motivates positive change. Instead, it corrodes...
  • Working Step 5
    Wednesday, May 15th, 2024

    Working Step 5

    Lies and secrets are cancer to the soul. They eat away what is good and leave only carnage behind. Plenty of recovering sex and porn addicts tell themselves that...
  • The Pain That Drives Our Disorder
    Friday, May 3rd, 2024

    The Pain That Drives Our Disorder

    It is by going down into the abyss that we recover the treasures of life. Where we stumble, there lies our treasure. Addictions form primarily because early-life traumas have...