Tag Archives: shame

  • Guilt vs. Shame
    Saturday, January 25th, 2020

    Guilt vs. Shame

    Shame, the inherent belief that we are flawed and unworthy, is a soul-eating emotion. Guilt is the feeling that we’ve done something bad that goes against our values and...
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  • Combatting Shame
    Friday, December 27th, 2019

    Combatting Shame

    With sex and porn addiction, shame is the master emotion. A considerable amount of research makes it clear that not talking about feelings of shame is usually more damaging...
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  • Stop Listening to the Noise in Your Head
    Monday, December 9th, 2019

    Stop Listening to the Noise in Your Head

    Shame loses its power when shared with another loving person. As sex and porn addicts, we can almost universally identify when other addicts talk about the ‘shitty committee’ that...
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  • Shame: The Wisdom of Sirius Black
    Wednesday, November 27th, 2019

    Shame: The Wisdom of Sirius Black

    Shame thrives in darkness, but withers in sunlight. In Harry Potter: The Order of the Phoenix, Harry fears the darkness with himself. When he shares this with his godfather,...
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  • Combatting Shame
    Sunday, October 27th, 2019

    Combatting Shame

    Shame is an antisocial emotion. Talking about shame is the social solution. As active sex and porn addicts, we spent our days trying very hard to not feel our...
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  • Overcoming the Shame of Porn Addiction
    Friday, September 27th, 2019

    Overcoming the Shame of Porn Addiction

    A moment of self-compassion can change your entire day. A string of such moments can change the course of your life. Porn addicts are often reluctant to seek help....
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  • Shame Resilience
    Tuesday, August 27th, 2019

    Shame Resilience

    We are only as sick as our secrets. In her book Daring Greatly, Brené Brown writes, “Shame resilience is about moving from shame to empathy – the real antidote...
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