Tag Archives: shame

  • The Hole in the Soul
    Saturday, March 27th, 2021

    The Hole in the Soul

    Addictions are an attempt to externally fill an internal void. Sex and porn addicts share certain characteristics. One of these common traits is that even when we got the...
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  • Guilt vs. Shame
    Monday, January 25th, 2021

    Guilt vs. Shame

    Shame, the inherent belief that we are flawed and unworthy, is a soul-eating emotion. Guilt is the feeling that we’ve done something bad that goes against our values and...
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  • Combatting Shame
    Sunday, December 27th, 2020

    Combatting Shame

    With sex and porn addiction, shame is the master emotion. A considerable amount of research makes it clear that not talking about feelings of shame is usually more damaging...
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  • Stop Listening to the Noise in Your Head
    Wednesday, December 9th, 2020

    Stop Listening to the Noise in Your Head

    Shame loses its power when shared with another loving person. As sex and porn addicts, we can almost universally identify when other addicts talk about the ‘shitty committee’ that...
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  • Shame: The Wisdom of Sirius Black
    Friday, November 27th, 2020

    Shame: The Wisdom of Sirius Black

    Shame thrives in darkness, but withers in sunlight. In Harry Potter: The Order of the Phoenix, Harry fears the darkness with himself. When he shares this with his godfather,...
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  • How Shame Impacts Us
    Friday, November 20th, 2020

    How Shame Impacts Us

    David Fawcett PhD, LCSW There are many possible sources of shame, including secrets in one’s family of origin, abuse of various forms, body shame, mental health problems, work, financial...
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  • What Is Shame?
    Friday, November 13th, 2020

    What Is Shame?

    David Fawcett PhD, LCSW Shame is perhaps one of the most common emotions underlying addiction. This feeling is taught to us at an early age, and from many sources....
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  • Combatting Shame
    Tuesday, October 27th, 2020

    Combatting Shame

    Shame is an antisocial emotion. Talking about shame is the social solution. As active sex and porn addicts, we spent our days trying very hard to not feel our...
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