“I wasn’t crying about mothers,” he said rather indignantly. “I was crying because I can’t get my shadow to stick on. Besides, I wasn’t crying.”
Denial usually builds slowly over time through a series of small, seemingly innocuous lies. Typically, each lie has its own set of rationalizations, minimizations, and justifications to bolster it. Cocooned in this intricately woven alternate reality, our sexually addictive behaviors can seem utterly reasonable to us. The rest of the world might easily see through this tapestry of deceit, but we either can’t or won’t. For us, pinpointing the lies we tell ourselves to justify our problematic behaviors – the fabrications that comprise our denial – is a key to lasting recovery.
Task for Today
Choose a lie that is part of your denial and debunk it.