Sex and porn addiction are not about feeling good, they’re about feeling less.
Sex and porn addicts use sexual fantasy and behavior to ‘numb out’ and escape from stress and emotional (and sometimes physical) discomfort, including the pain of underlying emotional and psychological issues like depression, anxiety, loneliness, boredom, unresolved early-life trauma, and the like. This is also why alcoholics drink, drug addicts get high, and compulsive gamblers hit the casino. Whatever the addiction, addicts are not seeking fun and pleasure; we are trying to control and manage our feelings.
Task for Today
Sit with your feelings, whatever they are, experiencing them fully and then releasing them.