Pretending that a problem is not a problem will not make it go away.
Sex and porn addicts are masters of denial. We blame, we justify, we rationalize, and we minimize. Essentially, we look at our problematic actions and unilaterally decide that no, they’re not really so problematic. We tell ourselves lies like:
- I’m no different than any other single person in today’s world. All of us are logged on to hookup apps 24/7, waiting for our iPhones to buzz and let us know that somebody wants to have sex.
- Being sexual with four or five different people in a single day is normal, or maybe I’m just better at hooking up thing than other people are.
- What I’m doing with porn is not a big deal, and the people who think it is are just being prudes.
Task for Today
Identify at least one way in which you’ve denied the nature and consequences of your sexual acting out. Then share that with someone in your recovery support network and ask for feedback.