Setting Clear and Concise Sexual Boundaries

If I have seen further, it is by standing on the shoulders of giants.

In sexual recovery, we create clear and concise sexual sobriety plans to define what sexual sobriety means for us and to provide ourselves with guidelines for living a healthier, happier life. These plans are written and signed as contracts to help us hold ourselves accountable to our commitments, particularly in the face of challenging circumstances. When we lack clearly written sexual boundaries, we are vulnerable to deciding in the moment that certain activities are “OK for now” even if they’ve been wildly problematic in the past. At all times, we need to remember that impulsive sexual decisions made without clear guidelines are what dragged us down in the first place, so it’s best to not leave any wiggle room in sobriety.

Just for Today
Identify the loopholes and gray areas in your sexual sobriety plan and ask your therapist or sponsor to help you pin down more precise language.