Shame thrives in darkness, but withers in sunlight.
In Harry Potter: The Order of the Phoenix, Harry fears the darkness within himself. When he shares this with his godfather, Sirius Black, Sirius tells him to listen very carefully, and then he says, “You’re not a bad person. You’re a very good person who bad things have happened to. Besides, the world isn’t split into good people and Death Eaters. We’ve all got both light and dark inside us. What matters is the part we choose to act on. That’s who we really are.” Sex addicts, especially those new to recovery, often face a dilemma similar to Harry’s. When this occurs, it is important to understand that although we cannot change the past, we can choose to act differently in the future. And if we do, that is who we truly are.
Just for Today
I will stop living in the wreckage of my past. I will stay in the moment. I will be a good person right here, right now.