The goal of sexual recovery is learning to be sexual in healthy, life-affirming ways.
People not familiar with sexual addiction often think that sexual sobriety, like sobriety from drugs and alcohol, requires total abstinence. This is not in fact the case. Instead, recovering sex addicts, working in conjunction with a 12-step sponsor or a sex addiction treatment specialist, carefully determine which of their sexual behaviors are problematic and which are not. They then commit, in a written sexual sobriety contract, to engage only in the sexual behaviors that are non-problematic for them.
Just for Today: I will think about which of my sexual behaviors cause problems, and which do not. I will share about this in a meeting or with my sponsor.