When at last you find someone to whom you feel you can pour out your soul, you stop in shock at the words you utter. They are so rusty, so ugly, so meaningless and feeble from being kept in the small cramped dark inside you so long.
After completing the fourth step, we suddenly find ourselves staring at step five—admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. Though step five is one of the simplest steps to work, many of us approach it with dread. And that is a perfectly understandable feeling to have, given the nature of what we’re about to do—sharing our step four inventories with another person. If you are dreading step five, you need to understand and accept that the majority of recovering sex addicts find that they cannot successfully maintain sobriety and progress in their recovery while keeping shameful secrets. You are likely no exception. Step five must be worked!
Just for Today
I will share a shameful secret in a meeting, with my sponsor, or with my therapist.