Tag Archives: secrets

  • How to Continue Breaking Your Partner’s Heart
    Sunday, March 5th, 2023

    How to Continue Breaking Your Partner’s Heart

    Beware the person who justifies bad behavior with apologies. The betrayal of infidelity is, without doubt, among the most painful adult-life emotional experiences anyone can have. As sex and...
  • Gaslighting Makes Betrayal Worse
    Thursday, February 23rd, 2023

    Gaslighting Makes Betrayal Worse

    Gaslighting is an attempt to alter the truth. Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse that involves the presentation of false information followed by dogged insistence that the information...
  • To Tell or Not to Tell…
    Sunday, February 5th, 2023

    To Tell or Not to Tell…

    The truth may hurt for a while. A lie hurts forever. If you are looking for advice that will tell you that after you cheat on your significant other,...
  • Sharing Your Step One Inventories
    Sunday, January 22nd, 2023

    Sharing Your Step One Inventories

    Letting go of secrets gives you the freedom to move forward with a different, better life. For most recovering sex and porn addicts, creating powerlessness and unmanageability inventories is...
  • The Damage Done
    Monday, October 31st, 2022

    The Damage Done

    Shame, blame, disrespect, betrayal, and the withholding of affection damage the roots from which love grows. Typically, it’s not any specific sexual or romantic act that causes the most...
  • Liar, Liar
    Friday, September 30th, 2022

    Liar, Liar

    I could conceive death, but I could not conceive betrayal. For many active sex and porn addicts, the immediate and best solution to a loss of relationship trust is...
  • Overcoming the Shame of Porn Addiction
    Tuesday, September 27th, 2022

    Overcoming the Shame of Porn Addiction

    A moment of self-compassion can change your entire day. A string of such moments can change the course of your life. Porn addicts are often reluctant to seek help....
  • Sex and Porn Addiction and Secrecy
    Sunday, September 18th, 2022

    Sex and Porn Addiction and Secrecy

    If you want to keep a secret, you must also hide it from yourself. As active sex and porn addicts, we organized our entire lives around sexual fantasy and...
  • Did Your Cheating Partner ‘Gaslight’ You?
    Tuesday, September 8th, 2020

    Did Your Cheating Partner ‘Gaslight’ You?

    What is Gaslighting? If you’ve been cheated on, it’s likely that you also experienced some degree of what psychologists refer to as gaslighting. Gaslighting, in case you’re wondering, is...