Saturday, May 3rd, 2025
The Pain That Drives Our Disorder
It is by going down into the abyss that we recover the treasures of life. Where we stumble, there lies our treasure. Addictions form primarily because early-life traumas have...
Tag Archives: shame
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Sunday, April 27th, 2025Combatting Shame
When we share our story, shame cannot survive. Overcoming the deeply rooted shame that drives sex and porn addiction is a process of learning to recognize shame and its... -
Thursday, March 27th, 2025The Hole in the Soul
Addictions are an attempt to externally fill an internal void. Sex and porn addicts share certain characteristics. One of these common traits is that even when we got the... -
Saturday, January 25th, 2025
Guilt vs. Shame
Shame, the inherent belief that we are flawed and unworthy, is a soul-eating emotion. Guilt is the feeling that we’ve done something bad that goes against our values and... -
Friday, December 27th, 2024Combatting Shame
With sex and porn addiction, shame is the master emotion. A considerable amount of research makes it clear that not talking about feelings of shame is usually more damaging... -
Tuesday, December 24th, 2024Betrayed Partners: Tips for Staying Sane During the Holidays
Betrayed Partners: Tips for Staying Sane During the Holidays Erin Snow If you’re like me, when you hear the word holidays you picture a Norman Rockwell inspired scene of... -
Monday, December 9th, 2024Stop Listening to the Noise in Your Head
Shame loses its power when shared with another loving person. As sex and porn addicts, we can almost universally identify when other addicts talk about the ‘shitty committee’ that... -
Wednesday, November 27th, 2024Shame: The Wisdom of Sirius Black
Shame thrives in darkness, but withers in sunlight. In Harry Potter: The Order of the Phoenix, Harry fears the darkness with himself. When he shares this with his godfather,... -
Sunday, October 27th, 2024Combatting Shame
Shame is an antisocial emotion. Talking about shame is the social solution. As active sex and porn addicts, we spent our days trying very hard to not feel our...